Tools for 2013

For those of you who dont know, this is my church. Perhaps this can help with Spiritual and Physical goals for 2013. Even Tony, from P90X Kenpo leads a work out every saturday morning. I suppose all the tools are right in front of me.

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The Ultimate Accessory - A Man

It is actually pretty interesting that I have not ventured into online dating. I love the Internet. I buy everything on the Internet. I even buy toilet paper online...seriously it's easier than hauling 5 loads up crap up from the parking garage alone. Let's face it- the internet is amazing. You can literally type in anything there will be an infinite supply of facts, nonsense and inappropriate content to sift through. Even if you F up, google will punk you with a "did you mean?" - it's all there. So is that where I can find companionship? Would my soul mate be hidden on page 37 of Google search results? Maybe, maybe not. Either way I have always had a personal "search list" of requirements and deal breakers. 

I don't think it's too much to ask for, but what do I know? Maybe I am in a dreamland. Clearly things have not worked out in my favor thus far. Just the other day I made 12 eyes roll and got a good reality check when expressing my "man standards." However, if you search for something online today and can't find it that doesn't mean it won't exist tomorrow. 

So here it is, like shopping for the prefect bag or pair of shoes there is some wiggle room, some absolute requirements, some deal breakers and the possibility that a sale will come along and throw it all out the window. 

Assumptions: 27-37 yrs old, 5'6"-6'6", 160-260 lbs, all limbs, all senses, lives in 50 mile radius

Breakers: No facial hair, no smoking, no drugs, no criminal record, no extreme mental illness, no reptile pets, no hoarding, know Jesus. 

Negotiable [dependent on other required criteria]: no ex-wife, no kids

Criteria:  

• Someone to make me laugh and get my jokes. 
• Someone who values my opinion. 
• Someone who loves their family even though they may drive them crazy. 
• Someone to make me stop everything I am doing to come see some spectacular sight because for just that moment it is perfect and looks amazing.
• Someone who is honest even when it's easier to lie
• Someone who does the right thing even when no one is looking. 
• Someone who pushes me to new adventures
• Someone who sings in the shower and dances in the kitchen. 
• Someone who makes me a better person.
• Someone who is smarter than me
• Someone who is passionate about something

That is it. These are the things that will look great next to me. The things that will compliment who I am and who I hope to grow into. The things that will bring out my features and make me feel great. Nothing too trendy, nothing that will fade overtime. A wardrobe piece that will last years and go with any mood. Too much to ask for? You tell me. Even the best outfit isn't complete without the perfect accessory. It can still be great, but sometimes the right addition makes all the difference. 

 

Resolutions

A few weeks ago I was feeling down in the dumps, completely stressed and outright awful. Leslie quality number one = honesty, so when my mom casually asked “hey how’s it going?” she got more than she bargained for. I laid it all out there and listed all my stressors in dramatic fashion. Being that it was my mom, I fully expected one of her lovely pocket responses: “I’ll pray for you,” “don’t worry,” “you’re special,” “do you need some money?”...something heartwarming yet under-constructive. What she actually said was completely unexpected and exactly what I needed to hear.  She said “Wow, that’s a lot of problems!! Work on one thing at a time.” 

She was right. Too many things, no where to start. I failed my previous challenge of 30/30 but I failed because it wasn’t me. While the list was great and I value all of your input and suggestions, the grand scheme of my life is not a weekend scavenger hunt. My goals should be what I want. I understand that doing things you may not want to do CAN actually lead you to amazing things that you DO want, but I have decided to start smaller for now. Plus, that’s where friends come in: bad decisions, peer pressure, regrets, fun. I am counting on you. 

The revised plan, like me, is more structured and simple. I will focus on 4 core areas: Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual improvements. 

1. Physical: Wear jeans and a t-shirt with no reservation
   I am sick of hiding under layers to cover my love handles.
   
2. Mental: Challenge myself mentally
   Maybe a new hobby, a book, a skill, new job, etc. I am actually pretty smart, I just don’t use it.
   
3. Emotional: Have some physical contact with an eligible male
   Anything from a hand hold to a relationship is acceptable. I just need to break the cycle. Celibacy is for the birds. I will feel better with human contact - it’s science.....and it’s been waaaaaay to long.
   
4. Spiritual: Read the Bible - all of it 

As you may notice, these goals overlap in category- that is the point. I am going for an overall well-being.  Spiritual me= strong me=Skinny me=self-confident me=boyfriended me= physical me=happy? We shall see.  

Up next: The Ultimate Accessory - A Man.